This weekend was spent in Visalia Ca. A sleepy town where my fathers only family lives. My younger cousin Chris got married and Sweater, mom and I drove up to attend. Before this weekend, Sweater and I felt some discomfort from family about getting married but nothing we could not handle. This weekend was another story! AHHHHH!!!!!
Why we are not married:
- I am not emothionaly ready to be a wife
- I don't have an idea of what my definition of a wife would be/do
- Have not compared notes with sweater on HIS definition of a wife or husband...
- I have a lot of goals I'd like to see out before I marry or start a family
- I think I'm to young to get married
- I am not financially stable, what would I bring to the marriage?
- I KNOW myself well enough to know that I'd be a shitty partner at this point in my life
Now here is another thing why I can't stand people asking us or telling me what to do to "care" for my man...
My cousin 1 asking me if I cook for sweater. Sometimes I cook, he cooks or we work as a team and make food together. 1's reaction was something like "she's the woman!"
Attending a family bbq and having my mother tell me "get up and make sweater a plate" Is bullshit!!!
Are you fucken kidding me? What century are we living in that I have to get up, stop my conversation, stand in line to get a plate of food for a man who is capable of getting his own plate!!!!!!
I am dating a man who is secure enough to get up and make his own plate which by the way, what asshole would I be ignoring my boyfriends views of not eating pork and putting him on the spot like that!
My mother didn't care if he was uncomfortable about the pork, she just wanted me to know my place.
This is another reason why I don't date Latinos. I don't want to date a guy with a case of mamitis. No thanks!
I want a Man not a Child! FYI: Mamitis is a mama's boy, the guy who compares your cooking, cleaning, dressing, attitude to his saint of a mother.
My cousin 2 married a girl who is in her early 20's still in braces and plays the role of the good wife getting 2 a plate and a drink... Thats nice it works for them.
I would never bring up in front of others or take her to the side and impose my views on her. I expect the same respect. What I do In my relationship or what I don't do, is non of your fucken business.
I would never say, "your husband is going to cheat on you because you don't take it up the ass, just try it once and lube it up, take one for the team." HOW RUDE AND INAPPROPRIATE!
Don't tell me your rules about dating, or how to treat my partner. Sweater and I have been just fine for almost five years.
News flash getting a ring is not something I'm looking for.